How to make yourself more Pleasant and Likable Person to Work With?

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How to Make Yourself Likable and Pleasant

If you are a professional, you will understand the importance of being liked at the workplace. It is very difficult to work with people you don’t like. When it comes to collaborating, who would you collaborate with- a colleague who is friendly and supportive or a colleague who bosses around? We all strive to become like the former one but often don’t know what to do. So I have come up with this article. The good news is that if we seriously want to improve, nothing can stop us to become a likable person. So let us begin our journey and become an ideal colleague to climb the success ladder without any roadblocks. Now! Acquire laser  sharp behavioral skills from the master behavioral Trainer and simply the best Corporate Trainer in the country.

What To Do & What Not To Do

Consider this…

Raghu is a whiner. He always cribs about things, always criticises his boss and colleagues, never smiles, and peaks into other people’s computers.

Kedar, on the other hand, is a soft spoken person who always greets you with a smile. He is known to bring out the best in people.

Who would you like to be your colleague- Raghu or Kedar?

Who would you like to be like?

Here are a few tips that will help you become like Kedar.

  • Never complain and crib. Everyone has problems in life. But we all learn to keep them at bay. Whining and complaining gets on people’s nerves and they stop sympathising with people who are cry-babies.
  • Negative words and phrases like I cannot or I will not, no, not my problem, Iam busy, why should I do this…, create a negative impact on colleagues. When we work together, there are times when we need to help each other out. If you refuse to help someone today, how will you request someone to help you?
  • Criticism comes back manifold. If you point fingers at others, chances are many fingers will be pointed at you. If you are criticised by someone, learn to accept it gracefully.
  • Do not discuss your personal life with everyone in office. It is OK to share personal conversations with a trusted colleague. But be wary of what you share or be prepared to become the topic for the gossip mill.
  • If you want to create likeability and want to be seen as a pleasant person, stop peeking into other people’s computers, letters, and emails etc. And if you have a habit of looking through wallets and handbags, get rid of the habit right now!
  • We should never borrow anything from anybody. But let’s say you do need to borrow something, ask. Borrowing without asking is perceived as stealing. Also, if you do borrow something, always make sure that you return it in the condition you borrowed it in.
  • Once I had a colleague who would get stationery issued from office every day! He would take pens, erasers, flipchart rolls, and markers every day. Soon the office boy started refusing to give him any more stationery. This is a classic case of misusing office property. We should not do it at any cost!
  • Draw a clear line when talking to colleagues of the opposite gender. There are lots of things at stake. If you don’t know your limits, you may not only get into trouble, but you may also lose your reputation and worse still, you may lose your job!
  • Like I have been mentioning before, never ever become a part of the grapevine! Know and understand the topics that are sensitive and keep away from discussions on these topics as well.
  • When taking offs like availing your casual leave or sick leave, make sure you do that when absolutely necessary to reduce unnecessary burden on your colleagues.

Learning Activity: Competition must be healthy

When things get competitive, people often resort to activities that they should not do. What 10 tips will you give to a colleague who can do “anything” to win?

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Here is what I will do:

  • I feel that a team is one single entity. If my left-hand starts hitting my right hand, will I be able to work efficiently?
  • Blame games and fault finding happens when people do not communicate with each other well. Find out what caused this behaviour and resolve interpersonal issues.
  • We get annoyed at people all the time. But do we need to share it all the time? No my friend! A person who shares his annoyance or irritation and does not know how to control his temper is rarely liked in an organisation.
  • There are employees who will do anything to get in the good books of the boss. Refrain from talking against colleagues to come in the good books of the boss. Pleasing the boss is a good thing, but pulling others down is not. It eventually backfires.
  • Talking and behaving petty is not appreciated by anyone. I once worked in an organisation where one colleague would talk to his colleagues and then share the conversation with the boss. As a result, everybody in the team stopped talking to him.
  • If you are a jealous person, let me tell you my friend, you will not go too far in the corporate world. A secure employee is sought after because he brings out the best in other people! Jealousy and envy can only ruin relationships.

It is important to understand that no two people are same, everyone has their own personality. But we can all strive to be good human beings. Develop samskara and see that no effort needs to be made to become pleasant.

Remember that you cannot “act” being pleasant or likable. It has to come from within you. You have to change your attitude from inside out. When the change it inside-out rather than just changing behavior, the impact will be far greater and much appreciated.

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